Men with a happy marriage are more likely to be out of business than women! Belgian Two-Sex Expert: Our Misunderstanding of Affair is More Than I imagined

Technology makes extramarital affairs easier, but it is also quickly discovered. In the past, people who we thought were happy and happy would not come out, and the real thing was not like this! How do you define marital infidelity? Is it an online interaction of dating software? Or is it a vague text on Line?

Belgian therapist Esther Perel is an uncontested infidelity expert, setting the proportion between 26% and 75%, because there is no universally agreed definition of what to structure infidelity in this digital era.

{9 According to a study, 56% of men with affair, or nearly half, say they have a happy marriage (and 34% of women). Another report found that men who have an affair in long-term marriages are often very satisfied with the marriage.

Women who have an affair in a long-term marriage report is exactly the opposite; they have the lowest satisfaction. In fact, everyone's marriage satisfaction decreases with the extension of the marriage time - except for those men who have an affair.

Anyone will be disloyal

Twenty years ago, any article or comment about disloyality was almost caused from the perspective of the victim, including the cheating, and then the incident that made Guan Er happen. Research shows that not only bad people cheat, but good people also cheat.

In short, no matter whether you are a good person or a bad person, you may lose yourself. Research tells us that those who are model wives and husbands, older mothers and fathers, love their companions, or otherwise emotionally responsible, sometimes get lost.

The proportion of married women who are unfaithful have increased

In addition, it can be found that the proportion of married women who believe they are unfaithful has increased by 40%, from 10.5 in 1990 to 14.7 in 2010. The most cited study in 2023 showed that 13% of women admitted to their partners' infidelity (and 20% for men).

Most people believe that women are mainly exposed when they feel neglected or not loved. But American sex and husband-wife therapist Dr. Nielsen, the author of "When You Are the One Who Comes", has different views on infidelity.

She believes that men go out for company and closeness; if they are just lacking sex, they will turn to porn; if they lack love and feelings, they will have an affair. As for women, she said frankly that women are out for passion and sex.

This is not always a personal mistake

Whether it is to remove people who originally had a relationship for love or sex, it is not necessarily a person who has been wrong. If this is a reaction to the real problem in the relationship, an affair may be the alarm needed to save the relationship.

Esther said that many people who came out of my case said that they only came out after being ignored. In short, the occurrence of an affair is definitely not a personal mistake. Under normal circumstances, extramarital affairs will immediately destroy the relationship between the couple. To be in harmony or separation, no one can see the relationship clearly, only oneself knows how the relationship between the two should continue and how to get out at the same time.

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