Editorial: What do you imagine your middle-aged life? Chen Jialing, the heroine of the popular Taiwanese drama "The Record of the Reproduction of Vulgar Women", was 40 years old when she turned her eyes, but she had no house, car, husband, and children. "My life seems to be nothing, and I can't move." The yelling sentence hits the panic of women in modern society.
By middle age, there are more and more problems with life. The life and things we wanted to do that year were abandoned because of the general considerations, the strength collapsed, and the time was lost. What were we left? Japanese marketing writer Jenny Su shares her life, love, money, and self-reconciliation and reflection that she has entered middle age. It turns out that some frameworks are okay if they are not broken!
Now there is not only the drooping flesh around the corner of the mouth, but also the protruding dark spots. If you grow, you'll grow. I'll just follow it to the end. I don't want to carry the traditional Obasan sign. Although people will eventually die, this era said that they would have to live to the age of 100 before they could be established, so it is necessary to establish a new image of Obasan. I asked a private fitness instructor for nine months. Regardless of the result, I, the novice, Obasan, suddenly became full of sucking.
When did I start from Obasan? It's probably the ending sound of a single word. It may be ridiculous to think about it now, but I actually thought that "after 20 years old, I am Obasan."
In fact, Obasan, who does not have a two-character word, cannot even approve of Obasan's preparation troops. I really want to say it, even adults don’t count. When the two-character head is lit up every day, like a cannon, causing a rush around and it is simple and routine.
When he was about to enter the three-character head, his mind this time was like a beholder, and most of them were men who started to tease themselves with the word "Obasan". I know very well that this is a half-joking thing for the other party, so I don't really do it. I think this way, sometimes I still endure the anxiety in my heart and I haven't been hurt by the dressing, but I feel really uncomfortable.
After truly entering the three-character head, there were people from the same class who regarded themselves as Obasan. At the same time, it also produces a group that is never allowed to be called Obasan or others as Obasan. They strongly reject Obasan through their attitudes and words, as if "there is no such thing as Obasan in this world." It's like the Obasanzha team. This also has a suffocating side, and the word "Obasan" and "three-character" cannot be said to be suitable.
When you come to the four-character head, you use the sentence "Forty-one flowers" to squeeze yourself, and on the other hand, you have worked hard to adapt to the changes in your flesh. You will be 45 years old when you turn your eyes.
I don’t know if the relationship between presbyopia slowly appears in my eyes, but when it comes to dusk, I feel blurred vision. The computer screen is also difficult to see clearly. However, the inner vision suddenly became clear. How refreshing!
I am already Obasan in my own eyes and in others' eyes.
At first I called Obasan as a model. Sometimes it was ridiculed by the other party. During the sectarian division of my fellow members, I finally found that I could accept Obasan's words calmly. This is not what I heard from anyone, but my Obasan declaration to myself.
should be issued the entire area of "I am Obasan" to the real Obasan. As long as you recite this mantra, the other party will usually tell you something: "Forget it, there is no way." It used to be a fake Obasan, so it is not allowed to be in society.
If you are facing an ordinary person who doesn't know his appearance, you can take it with a silly smile, but you can also bring this mantra at this time. Just say "I am Obasan" and "I am Obasan because I am Obasan". There is no need to delve into the truth too deeply, nor do you need to understand it or understand it. It turned out to be Obasan. I don't know if it's natural? I plan to put this entire area pass certificate around my neck, twist the image of Obasan, and try all kinds of possibilities as much as possible.
When ordinary people sneer at it, "this is the case with Obasan", that's better. Don't let people know my real plan.
Ah—— I really want to chant the mantra quickly. I'm already a wizard.
There is no correct answer in life, live the way you like!
Just by age, it is impossible to become a gentle and mature woman, it is impossible to become smart all of a sudden, and it is even more impossible to make your butt and breasts straight without any effort, and it is impossible to become broader because of this.
People who are still astonishing as beautiful as they are either beautiful or rely on the power of medicine; while people who are knowledgeable and knowledgeable have been learning tirelessly since before. This is natural. There is no magic in the world that suddenly becomes charming; charming people are like that since before, right?
Although I understand these principles, I still think of "why is this so?", but daily life is full of things, and it is indeed as many of them said before: Don't think about anything, and you will feel more relaxed and happy.
However, my physical strength has obviously declined a lot. I always feel like I want to sleep, but after sleeping for a few minutes, I woke up again, and the folds of the bed still left marks on my face. I was taking a morning bath in the morning, rubbing the inner side of my ears, and thinking, "Why are you more busy than I am in my 30s?", "Oh, the smell of old age is so terrible", "What week is it today?" This is me, I am still happy.
Ju Ximi is still the same, jokingly saying that a person's personality is not that easy to change, but it is much more slippery than before, and his figure is also. It is neither a person's ambition nor a desire; it is not a person who wants to eat because he is worthy of his own will do. This is what talents who do not have habitual habits will do. This is what I am younger than now - I don't want to have more than others, but I am afraid that I will eat without knowing it and never return to the original place.
So, what should I do?
No one wants to eat it, but there is a way to avoid calculating whether to eat it or not. I don’t know when, my mind changed from “not wanting to eat” to “I don’t know if this is a way to eat or harvest.”
I have a husband, but I don’t have children and my parents are not a penny, so I have no property to inherit, so I naturally have no debts. After 60 years old, I have to continue working without any doubt. However, I don't think that life is too bad or too consuming, I don't think so much now.
You may say that it is because you have a job, live in Tokyo and are healthy, so what's the point of complaining about? That's true. However, some people will define my situation as misfortune or food, so we cannot say that we will not encounter any more desperation in the future.
Therefore, I can only think of one way, that is, don't preset the correct answer. I have done this for the past ten or fifteen years; however, I still hope to have some persistence, a kind of persistence that I can do. I'm ready to at least not let myself get upset, or at least not be overwhelmed by anxiety. However, I would not say in a slight way to defend my tiny self-esteem, "Those grapes must be sour."
would not be responsible for whether I was inadequate, but instead thought about it in a similar way: "The grapes I can't eat now may be sour or sweet. I may be able to eat them one day, but I may not feel happy when I eat them." In this way, I will automatically enter a state of not being so inadequate. I still feel happy every day, but it is not because good things happen when I reach middle age.
Some people have food, drink, and smile; some people work hard; some people are busy with nurturing and care. Even so, it's good.
Book Introduction
Book Name: This is also very good! The Declaration of Independence of the Great Woman: Stop the slap and smile brightly! 66篇熟女養成記，帶你揮別中年恐慌
作者： 珍妮・蘇 譯者： 莊雅琇
出版社：大好書屋
出版日期：2021/03/05
作者簡介／珍妮・蘇（Jane Su）（ジェーン・スー）
1973年出生於東京的日本人。 Lyricist, column writer, broadcasting station host. Host the "Jane Su's Life Dance" program on TBS Radio. Take "The problem is, how old are you planning to be a girl? 》 (Published by Buerjia) won the 31st lecture and discussion club essay award.著有《我們沒被求婚的101個理由》、《女人每天穿脫盔甲都是一場戰鬥》、《今晚也照樣用錢解決》、《生也好死也好父親也好》、《我是歐巴桑了唷》等書，並與中野信子合著《生為女人也太糾結！ 》 (All the above are translated).
Editor Introduction/Zhao Yaxiu
is now a professional translator, who has translated "Question and Clinic to Win the Trust of Patients" and "What if cancer is recurred? What the patient and his or her family should know! 》, "Full-color illustrations to eliminate eye strain and save evil vision! 》, "Hygiene food, have you really eaten the right one?" 》, "Magic and beautiful fuck! "wait.
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