The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem has always been the biggest problem for many women after marriage. Not only are the daughter-in-law worried about being separated from her mother-in-law, but the mother-in-law also worried about having a disagreement with her daughter-in-law. Lawyer Lu Qiuyi once published a letter to tell his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law not to live together so that their relationship will not be broken. In this regard, Yuanqi.com posted a message on the face fan group to ask netizens’ opinions on “solving mother-in-law and daughter-in-law’s problems”, which caused a lot of revelations, and netizens kept leaving messages for their own experience.
3 questions about improving mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problemsIn the Chinese world, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships have always been difficult to solve. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems are the most worrying thing for many women after marriage. If they can meet a mother-in-law who loves her like a daughter, it will really smell good, and on the contrary, it will be like a child in the ground. Many daughters-in-law said that they are most worried about their mother-in-law's attitude towards themselves, forcing themselves to have children, opening their rooms without authorization violates privacy, using themselves as a daughter, and asking for all family affairs; and the mother-in-law also worried that their daughter-in-law does not like themselves, and they have to serve them all day long when living together, and are thought that cooking is not in line with their appetite, treating themselves as air and not saying hello, and pretending to be on their faces.
Regarding the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, lawyer Lu Qiuyu said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be properly handled, and there are only three questions: "First, don't live together! Second, don't live together! Third, don't live together!" If you really have to live together, there are still three questions: "Where is your husband fucking? Where is your husband? Is your husband dead?" There will be more friction when you live together. If there are many conflicts between family members living with blood relationships, then it means that there are so many conflicts between "daughters" without blood relationships with their mother-in-law. Don't live together, it's good for each other.
on improving the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Yuanqi.com posted a message on the face fan group to ask netizens about their views on "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems", and posted a message to quotate netizens to have a lot of comments and leave messages for their own experience.
A netizen said that he would support his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and not live together. "Yes! Keep distance, distance creates beauty", "Agree! 200% correct", "If you really don't live together, people respect and be more polite", "If you don't live together, you won't be worried, and you will be happy with each other.", "It's a famous saying that you can't see it! Distance = insurance", "The mother-in-law and other families in the husband's family really shouldn't live together. They live in different habits and ideas, avoid unnecessary friction, and the biggest reason for divorce", "Originally, why bother to live together? You have money to live in the mother-in-law's family", "Praise! Keeping distance will promote the harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law."
Some netizens also expressed their opposition to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law not living together. "Living in the same box with my mother-in-law is also good. The elderly will help you cook and do housework and take children, so that your son and daughter-in-law can go to work with peace of mind. Although they are a little unfree, there are many benefits." "I feel a little hurt after moving out. If the child is not old and needs space, I would rather like to live with my mother-in-law." "The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are both worried about the problem. The mother-in-law treats the daughter-in-law as a daughter, and the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are mother-in-law! Isn't it great to live together for three generations?"
The daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law's opinion on the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. "Even if you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, don't live together!", "It's difficult to meet a filial son and a mother-in-law", "I usually pretend to die and be busy!", "You can still walk without replying", "Don't go to your mother-in-law's house, don't go to your walk, don't go to your walk, don't go to your walk, say it three times", "Thank you for your husband for giving me a good mother-in-law", "This question is really unsolvable!", "If you don't have the ability to buy a house or don't want to get a 20-30-year loan, you can consider the marriage method of separation and marriage, and everyone is happy", "Strong mother-in-law + mother-in-law husband = broken marriage".
Mother-in-law's view on the mother-in-law's and daughter-in-law's problem. "You have empathy! My daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are also a family! You have to treat her kindly", "Modern version of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are all mother-in-law who wants to let her daughter-in-law!", "There are contradictory problems in the heart, and don't want to live with her parents-in-law, but I want to push the children to the elders' house", "The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should share three sentences: respect, let yourself go, cherish (incidence)," "Everyone will age, understand and understand each other! The ranking of children", "It is best to live next door and live nearby", "I don't live with the married children, but I will help them buy a house.", "In the future, I will meet when I become a mother-in-law."
There were also netizens who quipped replies, "Don't get married is not more direct", "If you are confused, you will be asked to move out", "Don't live together or you will gossip, you have to find someone without your mother-in-law."
In the face of the difficult problems of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, lawyer Liu Qiuyuan once shared his professional suggestions on his face. Remind the aunts who are preparing to be "good mother-in-law" to 10 must-have mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's relationship guides.
1. Please do not persist in living with your son and your daughter-in-law, it is best to take them out. Even if they can only rent a house, that's their business. The remote distance beauty ensures that your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a good relationship.2. Don’t treat your daughter-in-law as a daughter, just treat her as your son’s wife or your friend, that’s fine. You can treat your son as a minor forever, but please treat your daughter-in-law as equal respect. If you tell her, she will remember her. In this world, only her mother can control her, and her mother is not you.
3. The bad habits of your daughter-in-law buying things, watching Korean dramas, slimming mobile phones, not washing clothes and cooking, having bad health, not tidying up the house, not being able to take children, etc., are all none of your affairs, that is between your son and her, and your son's affairs do not care about you. He is really an adult.
4. If you live together, please respect each other. Don't touch their couple's things, don't help them wash clothes and cook, don't help them bring their children. Unless your daughter-in-law asks you and you are willing to help you, just take it into consideration. Handle their affairs yourself and don't bother you.
5. The couple quarreled, please wear it and didn't hear it. Do you want your mother-in-law to intervene when you have a quarrel with your husband? If you don't want it, would it be strange if you intervene now? When my son complained, he said that his wife was kind to me and immediately forgot. As for complaining between daughter-in-law and wife, I'll give you a few more sentences to your son.
6.Shouzi's father is your son and daughter-in-law, not your husband and you. It is not ideal to teach each other in another. They should take care of their children as much as possible, especially not to teach their children's rights. No matter how they don't take it, they will suffer the consequences.
7. There is no need for a daughter-in-law to be filial to you. The one who should be filial to you is a son. Please train your son and become a decent man to help you get along with your daughter-in-law. The good things your daughter-in-law treats you must always keep in mind. You must forget the good things you treat your daughter-in-law treats you immediately.
8. Please do not come when your son discusses divorce in court. This will make him look like a mother, and you can't enter the tutoring room and the court, so you can only be anxious outside.
9. Plan your retirement life more and don’t focus on your children. Even if your life is half over, there are still many interesting new things to learn. It is your mission to make your old age more brilliant. Please spend all your property before you die, and don’t let it become a property.
10.Sako is not from your family, but his father's baby. Please recite it automatically three times.
Jun Qiutian also reminded at the end: It is not easy to be a good mother, but it is very simple to be a good mother-in-law. A simple word is: "Look at but not see, listen to but not listen." You can pay more attention to your life, not your son and daughter-in-law. I believe your life will be better. To be honest, Sun Fu is his own, and it is important to take care of yourself.